It was one of the sweetest and, surprisingly, most pleasurable gestures I had ever experienced. Once, right after taking a shower, a partner asked me to sit down and spontaneously started to blow dry my hair. Sex has become a safe space for me to practice asking for what I want in a relatively low-stakes situation. I know it seems obvious, but it’s so true that I have to emphasize it: People can only meet your needs if you make what you want clear. Listening to my intuition, no matter the situation, has rarely steered me wrong. When something is a bad fit, I notice that I feel fearful, anxious, and have a lot of spiraling thoughts. I feel calm and can see the pros and cons. I know something is right for me-in sex or at work-when I feel curious, connected, and attentive. I listen to everyone’s advice, but then I listen most to what feels right in my body.
In the span of a week, 20 smart investors can recommend I take my business in 20 different directions.
